The tendency in relationships,Married or not married,Is to win the discussion/argument.The only true way to solve the issue,Is to solve the issue and not win the argument.We’ve all heard that “you’re not arguing over that,it’s something else that’s turned into this” and that is completely true.Next time you're going through the circular argument,Stop and try to find out what’s really the problem.-->This is not mine, But,A little story of a woman and her dear loved one.""I may have reached the end of all desperation.You see,it’s been a long time since we’ve both been trying to work this out,trying to find a way for at least one of us to get a plane ticket to be with each other.Everyday that we can’t find a way,we lose some of the hope we had.I cannot tell you how much it has hurt the two of us.DF has especially been depressed.I hurt everyday in feeling his pain,even if I’m thousands of miles away There is somehow that connection between the two of us that I feel his hurt and anger even if he hasn’t said anything at all.Just for instance,two weekends ago I’ve felt the instinct that he was stressed more than the usual,and when we did finally get to talk,he opened up about being stressed over taking care of his sister’s kids while they were away,and we were both surprised that my instinct was correct.I look at couples and I’m surprised how many of them take for granted the time they spend with each other.Many couples I see are arguing about dates,quality time,and even the smallest things like chores,clothes,dinner… It goes on.To us, it’s already enough that we can hold each others’ hands.It’s a very little thing to ask,to be able to hold his hand.How can it be that I’ve met the man I want to spend the rest of my life with,and not even be able to hold his hand? I know that not too many people will be able to help us out,but at the very least,when you are with your significant other,hold his hand,never let it go,and tell him you love him.I hope that you may never know the kind of pain that we go through,just wanting the smallest of moments that people take for granted everyday.""