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Last adjustments on my homepage: November 19th, 2009!
I have written: ♣ 26. Young people and young adults!
People who really care about children do their best to educate children well…, are attentive when they have supervision over children and do their jobs with sense of duty and responsibility.
People like that do not have time, nor feel the need, to play war-games!
People who do play war-games are the ones that feel the need to work out their personal feelings of frustrations of things of the past that “they” could not come to terms with! ◊
Very important message! - October 26, 2009
Always when her husband is in my RL-neighbourhood Blacklooking42 and her friends are sending me someone to chat with!
She is doing this already since my first chat on the internet, which is since 2006!
She also sends people to watch my front door for the same purpose. This situation is going on already since the fall of 1998.
I think it is about time that this woman solves her problems instead of accusing someone else for them!
She has friends who are Dutch policemen! That is why I cannot solve this problem!
Never in my life before I have seen someone using children and young adults in wars and for the benefit of personal frustrations as I have seen doing by Blacklooking42 and her friends.
So much that it has made me sick.
She and her friends were in my thoughts when I wrote what I have written about this on my homepage!
I hope that one day people will understand who and what she and her friends are!
P.S. She has an alternative avatar named Blacklooking! ◊
Reading!
About hugging:
I would very much appreciate it when people/avatars would respect my feelings for my special someone and the exclusive position he has in my life. I only hug him! And except for my family, with all the other people/avatars I like to shake hands ◊
♣ 26. Young people and young adults! - November 19th, 2009
The reason why I do not like to talk to young people (under 35) on the internet is because in all the time that I have been on the internet, I have not met one nice, adult and trustworthy person.
Particularly on the internet young people seem to misbehave.
But the thing that alarmed me the most is the behaviour of an Exchange Student we had more or less 10 years ago.
Although a Brazilian girl was not what our Rotary group wanted, because of bad experiences in the past with a Brazilian boy, a Brazilian girl is what we got!
When I once made a remark to her about her behaviour towards the men in the families that she was staying with, her answer was that this was her insurance for having a perfect time while staying with the families. And it was!
With everything that happened there was always a man to support her.
In my heart at that time I first blamed the men for being stupid, which they are I have learned that a lot in my life ..., but then something happened:
One day my ex-husband came down from upstairs looking ash-grey! And with anger in his eyes he ordered me to “never, ever,” leave him alone with that creature. And he meant the Exchange Student who stayed in our house at that time for e few days because of an emergency situation.
That was the moment that I knew for sure that this girl was not only taking advantage from situations but really tried to set up a man to create a situation where he was to blackmail.
Later I would find out that she copied files out of my computer, which were my dairies in which I was writing down, trying to overcome, the sadness of my marriage... not to have to bother other people with the sadness in my heart! I guess she was looking for other ways to get the power over my husband and me.
I have tried to get attention for this action but as I have described here above: there was always a man to defend her.
If my husband was able to reach me with this message when something like this is happening, we knew each other already for 23 years at that time, why is it that other men cannot reach their wives with the same story. That always has kept me wondering!
This girl was 17 years old… someone who already had made love with her boyfriend before coming to Holland, and he was not the only one!
Her comment on the subject: Women in Brazil are a lot more adult on a much younger age then the girls in Holland.
I have seen that education of other children is not something that I have influence on.
And I have learned there and then to always watch out for young people like this.
When later a famous talented young soccer player in Holland got in trouble with a story with a girl, my ex-husband, who is a lawyer, and I have done everything in our environment to let the people know that they must stay impartial in a matter like this until proof demonstrates that he is guilty.
And the saddest thing of this story is, that the families where the men are the first to misbehave, were the first to accuse another man in trouble.
I am warned for the rest of my life that not all young people are like me, when I had their age. And I have seen that not all men are what I think that a man should be.
And I am sure that not all women are like my mother.
I do not want to be a victim of a child on the internet!
And I cannot find one healthy reason other then family band or similar interests why young adults should want to talk to someone of my age.
A child that is honest will call me on the phone to let me know who it is, when he/she really would decide to want to communicate with me via the internet.
And I will not talk on the internet to children and young adults who do not respect my rules. ◊
These are my newest products, maybe the last ones not out of Peer Review yet (AP jury) but coming soon in 2 or 3 days.
When you click on the pictures you will see what is already available and what is not yet available. When it is, it will lead you directly to the shopping page of this product. ◊
26. Young people and young adults! - November 19, 2009
25. The benefit of glasses and light! - June 9, 2009
24. A letter to all IMVU-moderators! Forum-messages!
23. Items that I use a lot in my scenes! - March 16, 2009
22. Unhappy in a relationship! - Januari 23, 2009
21. Friends list! - Januari 22, 2009
20. Dairy: January 10th, 2009!
19. Dairy: January 6th, 2009!
18. Definition of a stalker! - September 29, 2008 restored
17. Obsessed! - September 26, 2008 restored
♣ 25. The benefit of glasses and light! - June 9, 2009
Today someone with the following tagline visited my homepage!
Never explain--your friends do not need it and your enemies will not believe you anyway.
I have answered to him:
But in between my friends and my enemies there is this huge group of stupid and ignorant people, who will follow my enemy if his/her story is better!
And since ugly people always have the best stories, because they don’t care in the least about the truth, and lies are always more juice then facts, the chance that this huge group will follow the enemy and will make my life miserable with their stupid interfering is realistic.
In order not to just let that happen, without at least have given the effort to reach them, is I guess the smartest thing to do.
This is what my mother has told me, has even punished me for to never forget that in my whole life, and has proven to me with her life that this “is” the best thing to do.
And as far as my father is concerned, he already proved that to me when I was even younger then 5 years old.
Even though chances of success to really reach this huge group are limited, at least I have tried! And I have proven to them that I took them seriously, should they some day see or want to see the light!
I think it is never wrong to take someone serious and to at least give it a try!
And then I will leave it up to them, because another wisdom is saying: "There will be no benefit in bringing the owl a candle and glasses, when he does not want to see!"
So after having taken these people really serious and after have given it a try to explain to them, I will see what they believe and want to believe.
And my benefit of it will be that I can see who is smart and independent enough to understand and who is not!
P.S.
For those who are interested in the punishments of my mother, the ones I got for not taking the crowd serious:
In the early spring of 1973 it was 2 times 6 weeks house arrest and no 16th birthday celebration.
When the next year “again” I had house arrest in the spring for 6 weeks and again it would spoil my, this time, 17th birthday, all my friends, including my boyfriend, came to my house!
With all of us witnessing my boyfriend threatened to charm my mother to weaken her to let me go.
What else could she do then smile! And while still laughing she said:
“Seeing that my daughter is this popular that you all are standing here to plea me to let her go, what else can I do then exactly that!”
And after a loud hurrah, several kisses and a loving hug from her birthday daughter, I practically danced out of the house and almost lost my finger when my ring catched the doorknob.
Still standing on the terrace, occupied with trying to take off my ring, my boyfriend, who already had descended the few stairs to the garden, fell on his knees and cried out loud and happy:
“Oh Romeo… Oh Romeo…”
…overruled by the whole group that his part should be…
“Oh Juliette… oh Juliette…” … smile! ◊
♣ 24. A letter to all IMVU-moderators! Forum-messages! - May 17, 2009
To all moderaters, called by names: DarkAngel5, Cassiopeia, Mommajack, Dippy, Shira, Jackalope, Badboy, Kaffe, Tiggerrific, Lindy, Shauncy, MinhyrdinWindrose, Ewe,
I trust it that no one is aloud to say anything in the forum without the one who it is concerning is aware of it and informed about what is said and written about him, “and” had a chance to react on it and to defend himself.
That also means that nothing may be said about someone in an AP forum when the person(s) concerning it or involved are not AP themselves.
I trust that you are an honest and righteous person who will always inform everyone about what is written in the forums!
What else are moderators for then to make sure that things are directed in an honest and righteous way and that people get the chance to defend themselves!
There does not exist a place in this world where people do not have the right or the chance to defend themselves on what is written or said in public, I trust IMVU is playing by the same rules!
My search in Forum does not work, already for as long as I am a member in IMVU or for as long as I am aware of the fact that it exists.
I have never been able to find anything written about me, and no one has ever informed me about something that has been written or said about me!
Dymphne ◊
♣ 23. Items that I use a lot in my scenes! - March 16, 2009
Here below I like to give you a list of products “with their links” that I am using a lot in the scenes on my shopping pages.
♣ 22. Unhappy in a relationship! - Januari 23, 2009
More and more I meet people who chose to be unhappy in their relationship with their partner!
And after having visited my homepage they seem to desire my approval for their motives.
Let me make one thing very clear to all of you!
I am not the one who will “ever” prevent someone for being unhappy!
If that is what you really want, please be so!
There are only a few things that I object to.
1. Never blame children for your unhappiness!
You have no right to burden your children with the blame that you have chosen to be unhappy! And that is exactly what you are doing when you say that you stay in the marriage because of them!
Never in my whole life have I heard one child saying: “I want my mummy or daddy to be unhappy because I cannot handle a divorce!” … NEVER!
And I only know of movies that children are sabotaging the divorce of their parents! Stories written by adults... not by children!
I have never experienced children behaving like that in my real life, at least not by their own choice.
I do have seen situation where children are used as missiles to shoot with. I also have seen children being used as hostages for blackmail, as scouts and as spies!
We all seem to condemn that children are being used in wars in foreign countries. I have never heard a couple saying: we are criminals of the worst kind, we have misused our own children in a war that we liked to wage!
2. If you want to be unhappy, if you really have made that choice for yourself, then stick to it!
Do not drag innocent others into your situation “only” to make your choice more bearable for you!
This is a very ugly, selfish and cowardly thing to do.
Can you imagine that I meet men who make the choice for themselves that they like to be unhappy, then burden their own children with this blame, on top of that drag other innocent people in their unhappiness, then even try to get the sympathy award in their neighbourhood for the difficult situation they are in, and then come to me and ask for my approval for their motives for the mess that they are creating!!!
And please do not ask my respect for the partners of these people who most of the time are as guilty to the situation as the people I have described here above.
I hope that with this explanation I have given you in a clear way my opinion on the subject. ◊
♣ 21. Friends list! - Januari 22, 2009
In the time that I am in IMVU, more then one year now, I have seen a lot of interpretations of what a friends list means to people.
For some it is a glassy cabinet to expose with whom they are friends with!
For others it seems like a huge collection of proof that they are popular!
Very few times I have experienced that a friends list is what I think that a friends list should be: a collection of people for whom you like to have time for at any time!
People you really like to talk to when they are on line! People from whom you can respect their explanations when they are not free to chat with!
People to whom you will gladly give a true explanation when you do not have time for them.
Or just plain said: people who you like to follow in their daily life because you care about how they are doing, because you like to contribute with attention and care when they need it, because you just want to be there for them and you like them to be there for you.
For me this is what my friends list is!
And only the ones with whom I have the feeling that they interpretate “me being on their friends list for the same reason”, I like to be on theirs too!
I hope that everyone understands now why my friends list is this short, why I have denied so many impressive developers to be on my list.
I do not want to be an eye-catcher in someone’s collection and I will not use someone else for that same purpose. ◊
♣ 20. Diary: January 10th, 2009
The whole situation with this stalker has damaged me, I am sure of that!
It will take time to overcome that and only the right people will be able to help me.
Coming on too strong has never worked for me! And now, with all that I have been experiencing, it will chase me away to never come back, even when your goal is only friendship!
One may not take it personal that I am damaged this much by the “so called” love of men that has made me a prisoner for so many years.
They call it love, but I can assure you that this has nothing to do with love.
They only see their own needs and the easiest and quickest answers to them. Not even aware that the other one is a person too, with wishes and needs of their own.
Someone who really cares is interested in what the other one is thinking, feeling and wanting!
That is the way we can recognize someone who cares and someone who really loves! ◊
♣ 19. Diary: January 6th, 2009
My crib is crowdie but beautiful. I love it this way and it is only one day a year that I can admire it like this. The Kings, or the Wise Men, as you wish, finally have arrived and are in the crib visiting the new born King.
My living room looks extremely cosy with the adjustments that I have made right before Christmas and outside the world here in Holland looks like a fairy tale. A day you would wish for never to end. I wished I could freeze the picture and enjoy it for a few days more.
And I think here in Holland, together with me, a lot are holding their breath for the big event to happen: Will there or will there not be an “Elf Steden tocht”.
Or in good English: a tour on ice skates in Friesland visiting eleven cities to have skated it for the achievement, for prestige, for honour and for history, in the year of 2009!
We do not have the tour a lot anymore lately! Since they make the tour on nature ice, it has to freeze really hard to be able to organise it.
But when they do, we all are involved. We even have television at work to be able to follow it… smile.
I always have my Christmas all the way... until the Three Kings Day!
As far as music is concerned, this year I was particularly found of the Christmas CD of Frank Sinatra. A very welcome escape for all that we have been hearing on the radio, together with of course each year Herman van Veen and Barry Manilow, my favourite Christmas CD’s.
Tomorrow I will take away all the Christmas decorations and normal life will also start for me in this very new year!
Happy New Year!
Christmas CD’s:
Barry Manilow – Because It’s Christmas – Arista
Herman van Veen – Kerstliederen (with the Barokensemble olv Ton Koopman) – Harlekijn
Frank Sinatra – The Christmas Album – EMI Gold
♣ 18. Definition of a stalker! - September 29, 2008
Let me try to create a definition for what I think a stalker is!
Someone who is...
above average interested in someone,
and wants to be around that someone all the time,
talking with others about that person,
trying to find out everything about that someone,
always occupied with that someone, without communicating in a direct dialogue,
not solving the problems that stand in the way of a direct dialogue.
People who are stimulating obsessive behaviour are the ones who
tolerate above behaviour in their neighbourhood,
have advantages by making someone obsessive, prevent or / and “not stimulate” a direct dialogue,
like gossiping more then solving problems,
are using obsessive people to have something to gossip about.
People in my opinion who have more risks in becoming a stalker:
people with low self-esteem and too little self-confidence,
people who have something to hide, people in unhappy marriages.
Let me now look what the dictionary Van Dale has to say about this!
Stalking: stalk, pursue and being around someone in a sneaky way like a hunter does with a victim he wants to shoot! ◊
This Kitten in her basket and with a bowl milk to feed her you can find in my catalog with the following link:
Do not read my homepage while visiting me!
And please do not chat with others while talking to me either. When you do I will close the window at once!
When you visit someone in real life you do not start reading a paper after your first hello!!!
Visiting someone in a room in IMVU is the same as visiting someone in real life; please act accordingly: be dressed and be polite!
I will not chat "private" under 35 "unless" you are a real life relative that I know of, unless you are a customer and you have a problem or a question.
When you want to know about the reasons why, please read my blog:
♣ 26. Young people and young adults!
When you are a real life relative, also under 35 years old, please e-mail me on my e-mail address or call me on the phone to let me know that you are a member here in IMVU and who you are!
Looking for: chatting (chatting on IMVU means talking with written words, not getting physical!) ◊
When I am afk (away from keyboard)
I have not always written an away message.
When you leave me a smile in a message on my homepage I can call you back! ◊
Please do not give me gifts, unless you are a close friend and I have my birthday!
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